Charles dickens : a Christmas Carol illustrated a
Metamorphosis of a man: cold to considerate and compassionate
Richness of relationship is more valuable than trinkets and toys.
Do to others as you would have them do to you. “If you love those who love you, what credit is that to you? Even sinners love those who love them. And if you do good to those who are good to you, what credit is that to you? Even sinners do that. And if you lend to those from whom you expect repayment, what credit is that to you? Even sinners lend to sinners, expecting to be repaid in full. Be merciful, just as your Father is merciful. “Do not judge, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn, and you will not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven. Give, and it will be given to you. A good measure, pressed down, shaken together and running over, will be poured into your lap. For with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.” Luke 6:31-34, 36-38 NIV)
You can not tangle most things fast. It takes time.
1. Give speaking the hard truth a chance to work.
Proverbs 27: 5-6
Better is open rebuke than hidden love. Wounds from a friend can be trusted, but an enemy multiplies kisses.
(Proverbs 27:5, 6 NIV)
“Therefore, if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother or sister has something against you, leave your gift there in front of the altar. First go and be reconciled to them; then come and offer your gift. (Matthew 5:23, 24 NIV)
They may not always know they offended you.
2. Give someone the benefit of the doubt.
~Don’t be hasty in my conclusion
~Don’t be unduly harsh
~Recognize you do not have the last word or final verdict.
3.Condemn not and you won’t be condemned.
“To the angel of the church in Ephesus write: These are the words of him who holds the seven stars in his right hand and walks among the seven golden lampstands. I know your deeds, your hard work and your perseverance. I know that you cannot tolerate wicked people, that you have tested those who claim to be apostles but are not, and have found them false. You have persevered and have endured hardships for my name, and have not grown weary. Yet I hold this against you: You have forsaken the love you had at first. (Revelation 2:1-4 NIV)
Give commendation more than condemnation.
4. Forgive and you will be forgiven. Give somebody another chance.